Welcome to my official blog, The Lady Cat Eye. My objective with this blog is to curate and share a variety of interesting content that not only gives my readers a different perspective on life, but will hopefully lead to an expansion of awareness and consciousness.
Part lifestyle blog, part curator of curiosities, I hope to bring a good amount of thought provoking and authentic material to this blog.
Note: This blog will be connected in the coming weeks to my official website, which is currently under construction.
And with that…
Authenticity is a word I’m seeing thrown around a lot in the last year or so. To be authentic, to me, is to be your full self without holding back any part of it. Trust me when I say that this is easier to say than do at times…especially when you’re in the presence of different groups of individuals. The unspoken social rules we feel bound to are rules that I feel and see more individuals breaking through day by day, especially in the turbulent times we live in. I’m seeing more and more individuals, not just calling out superficial aspects of social interactions with others, but also unpacking and calling out abuses of power for what they are. This is wonderful, and it’s a much needed cleansing our society needs in order to heal deeper wounds in the collective.
In order to call what needs to be called out, we first have to be honest with ourselves and have the courage to unpackage ourselves and identify what’s holding us back individually.
That being said, we’re all aware that Facebook is probably the only social media application/platform where you are required to add someone on your ‘Friend List’ in order for them to interact with you. To some in the past–or perhaps just me–it might have been awkward to not add family and acquaintances when they requested you, and you might have felt a certain obligation to have them in your contacts in order for there not to be tension in person. If you’ve experienced this, then it’s probably safe to say that Facebook has never really been an authentic platform with respect to its users. I personally never believed it was. After all, this is a platform where the creators require/force you to use your full name, even if it’s dangerous to do so for some. Facebook seems to be a good platform for people who only want to keep in touch with their relatives or acquaintances, namely for those that don’t post much.
Trust me, not everyone uses Twitter or Instagram either. Some don’t really connect with those two platforms. I understand that. What I don’t understand is this why use all three platforms and not follow the people you have on your contacts list on Facebook on all of your other platforms as well? And why keep people on your Facebook contacts you really have no interest in?
Someone might read that and think “You’re not entitled to have those people on your Facebook follow you on your other social media pages.” And you know what? That’s 100% correct. You’re not entitled to the time and energy of the individuals around you and they aren’t entitled to your time or energy. Yet, in order to forge those authentic connections, why keep individuals bound to you that you really have no personal interest or energy investment in? After all, not everyone is meant to remain your friend or acquaintance. People come and go.
I had a discussion with a friend of mine, who’s an artist, over the weekend. I asked her what she thought of the idea of people following their contacts on all social platforms vs just having them as a contact on Facebook, whether they’ve ‘followed’ them or not (and not following them anywhere else but Facebook.) She told me that if someone is just in your contacts on Facebook, and you know that person is on the other platforms, and they’re not following you on Instagram or Twitter as well….then perhaps that isn’t a very authentic connection and/or that person is not really invested in you and/or your work.
I’m curious to know if anyone else has noticed what I have in this regard?
And to add a disclaimer: If one doesn’t feel comfortable following a person on all three platforms, but just one because they don’t know that person that well…that’s one thing. However, it just seems weird to me that one would have them at all in their contacts, if they don’t want to actually tell that person, “I’m not interested in actually connecting with you.” Or, “I only follow close friends and family.” We shouldn’t be afraid to say these things. I’m not going to lie, it’s not easy to tell others this without sounding mean…but it’s nonetheless important for our own well being to invest our energies wisely.
The whole reason I bring this up is that part of Vero‘s appeal (the new social media platform) is to forge those authentic connections, and having the options of letting your followers know that you are either A. Just following them or they are just following you, or B. You’re friends or acquaintances.
With Vero, it’s all out there on the table. No bullshit. No pretending. You and your followers know where you stand.
Now…Vero is in their beginning stages of showing this ‘authenticity.’ So…I’m giving myself time to use this new platform so I can form a fully formed opinion on it.